Wednesday, 13 July 2016

One Critical But Often Negelcted Question You Should Ask When Goal Setting

Setting goals is a very important step if you want to achieve more success. And of course, they must be written down and reviewed on a regular basis, not just shoved in a drawer and to be forgotten.

There are many advantages to setting goals and research shows these benefits positively impact our happiness and purpose in life as well as improving physical health.

For me, I believe we should have never ending goals. Why? because in addition to the above, they give us direction in life. As the saying goes, 'If you don't know where you are going any road will get you there'.
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So I take it you have your goals and you have them written down? If not, I strongly suggest you spend some time on them. If you choose to do so, you will never regret it.

I mean you can get a lot written down in 20 minutes. And you needn't worry, Facebook will still be there when you have finished or you can watch the next episode of Game of Thrones on catch-up.

The One Neglected Question

On my workshop, How to Achieve Any Goal You Can Envision I take my clients through goal setting for a whole day; that's how many steps there are to creating successful outcomes, including how we think about them.

Most people miss one of the most critical questions out when it comes to their goals. That question is this:

What is the price for achieving your outcome (Goal) and are you willing and happy to pay it?

Now when I mention price, I am not referring specifically to money, although with some goals that is probably a question you may have to ask. I am referring to other things that can be termed as price.

For example, I was coaching a budding entrepreneur once who had all the drive, passion, enthusiasm and all the other traits to become a success. However, he was stuck and not making any real progress. So I knew something had to be not right.

I Trust and Listen to My Gut Feelings

Now although I wasn't really going through his goals with him, I had a gut feeling to mention the above question, knowing that a lot of people miss it out.

We then delved deeper into this. It turned out that his price for building his particular business was that he had to spend a lot of time away from his wife and three small children. He would be out of the house early morning and not home until late evening.

And as you know in business building, sometimes even later than that.

Over time, he began leaving later and returning earlier. He was missing his good lady and kids too much (His wife, I have to add, was also missing him and was placing pressure on his time away too). He was missing those things a lot of dad's miss: mealtimes together, bathtimes, reading to them before bed, playing in the garden on a summers evening and all the other marvelous times.

He couldn't make the sacrifice, it wasn't a price he was willing and happy to pay.

After mentioning this he realised that it was harming his performance and progress. The price for being successful (In this chosen field) was too high. I questioned him strongly if he could speak with his wife about it and if they could and would, willingly and happily pay the price.

(When questioned the penny dropped with him. He hadn't really noticed this was the cause of his progress stagnating)

We explored other ways he could still pursue his dream by approaching it without being away from home. It was not feasible.

Save Yourself Wasted Time

After much discussion they both decided to quit this dream, even though he had put a year of hard work into it. I later did another session with him and helped him find something else he could do that would still require lots of time to build (Like any new business) but whereby he could spend more time at home.

Even though he was still having to put a fair few working hours into his days, the fact that he was 'just up stairs' made his new dream more likely to succeed. The price was far easier to pay.

So explore the price of your biggest goal. Ask what it will cost you and then make sure you are willing and happy to pay it. If you aren't then you will save yourself a lot of time, blood, sweat and eventual tears chasing butterflies.

Your price might be the same as the above entrepreneurs or it could be completely different of course. But there will be a price you have to pay. And you must be willing and happy to pay it.